Before Having a Baby to Please Someone Else – Read This Post
Trust Yourself! Stop Making Decisions Based on What Other People Say
Having a baby is a big deal. It’s a decision that will impact your life in every way possible forever. Everything will change once you get pregnant so make sure you go into it with your eyes wide open.
Before having a baby because someone else or society says you should, think again. While you might believe you’re pleasing someone else by getting pregnant, remember it’s your life and your decision.
Will that person help you when you’re nauseated from morning sickness, in labor, and up at 4:00 AM with your baby?
Those are just some of the things that a new mom has to deal with on a daily basis. If you’re not ready for that type of commitment and 110 percent excited to have a baby, you might want to rethink your next steps.
Let’s look at it logically.
What Would You Tell Someone Else in Your Shoes?
If a friend told you she was considering having a baby because someone else told her she should, what would you tell her?
You’d probably tell her to think about what she wants first. And that having a baby is one of the biggest decisions she’ll ever make. Why? Because it’s one that changes your life forever. That’s good advice because it’s the truth.
Other People Don’t Know What’s Best for You
Getting other peoples’ opinions might be helpful when you’re trying to make a decision and gathering information, but they most likely don’t know how you’re feeling or what’s best for you.
Take advice under consideration, but make up your own mind based on your wants, needs, desires, and motivations. Having a baby may be right for you. Or then again, it might not. Only you know.
It’ll Only Motivate You If You Really Want It
Close your eyes and think about what you want out of life. What are your hopes and dreams? What makes you smile? Really take some time to unplug and think about what you want. Once you discover it, that’s when you’ll see your passion return and you’ll be motivated to make your dreams a reality.
If your heart isn’t into having a baby, you won’t be excited to take that journey to motherhood nor will you be excited to embrace all the surprises to come.
Put Yourself First
If you’re the type of person who puts everyone else first, this might be difficult for you. Not giving yourself the proper consideration might be fine when you’re deciding where to go for dinner or where to go on vacation, but for those life-changing, really important decisions, such as having a baby, it doesn’t fly.
This decision is so important. You have no other option but to put yourself first. Not doing so will cause you distress later, especially if the path you pursue is not the one you wanted.
Because of this, forget about everyone else, at least for the moment.
Friends and Family Have to Accept Your Decisions
No matter who you are and what decisions you make, your friends and family who love you should accept your decisions unconditionally.
If you make a choice they disagree with, that’s fine. Everybody is entitled to their opinions, but they still need to embrace and love you with the same vigor they did before. If they don’t, that’s their problem.
Whatever your decision, make sure it is your decision and not someone else’s. An important part of that is to listen, research, and, more important, to think.
No one can jump in your head and magically determine what you really want so it’s your job to figure it out – before having a baby.
Making a decision based solely on what someone else says or thinks you want will only make you resent that person and regret your decision. By the time that happens though, it’ll be too late.
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