Starting Over Isn’t As Scary As You Think
Nothing is going right. It seems like the world is against you. You can’t get motivated. And it’s just depressing.
Whatever you’re struggling with and however you’re feeling is mudding your state-of-mind, your body, and your life.
And it’s not an isolated incident. The rain cloud follows you every minute of every day and it’s consuming you.
When things get this bad, so bad that you have a tough time getting out of bed or you feel the need to fake happiness with your friends and family, you may need to step back for a moment and consider another way forward.
Things aren’t going your way and they haven’t been for a while
Whatever you’re doing now isn’t working – it’s suffocating you. Whether it’s your family, your job, your significant other, or something else in your life, it’s toxic and making you miserable.
You might think you can stick it out or you’ve worked so hard for what you’ve got that you can’t possibly change now, right? Wrong.
I was in the corporate world for 20 years – earning a decent salary and stagnating between gray cubicle walls. I was unhappy. I’ll admit that it took a while for me to finally realize and acknowledge that something had to change. After all the nervousness, crying, and self-doubt subsided, I finally mustered up the courage to make a change and start over.
Now I’m an independent author trying to spread my message of happiness and earn a living. Through this blog, my books, and my private coaching sessions, I’m helping people discover their hidden powers of self-esteem so they can handle anything life throws at them.
I’m starting over and you can too.
Does starting over seem scary?
I bet it does, but consider your life if you don’t start over. You’ll be doomed to live out your life unhappy, dealing with toxic people and situations that drive you crazy and make you more miserable every day.
I’m not saying that starting over will fix all of your problems, but if you don’t give it a shot you’re pretty much guaranteed not to fix them.
Here’s what I’ve learned about starting over. Maybe it’ll help you think logically about your situation and what you should do to make your life better.
#1 – You’re never stuck
No matter what’s happening in your life and what you’re struggling with, you’re never stuck. Did you hear that? Let me repeat. You’re never stuck.
If you want to start over or there’s something you want or need to change – where you live, who you’re with, where you work – there’s always a way to make it happen. I’ll admit that it won’t be easy and you might have to think creatively, but if you want it bad enough, you’ll find a way.
#2 – Take it one day at a time
Rome wasn’t built in a day and starting over won’t happen quickly either. Starting over is something you need to plan and something that happens slowly.
Don’t get frustrated if, once you make up your mind to start over, you have a bad day or two in the process. If the people around you are unhappy as well, they probably won’t want you to make changes that might improve your life. If you’re taking steps to make yourself happy, those people will no longer be able to take comfort knowing you’re as unhappy as they are.
Misery loves company and those people might do everything they can to dissuade you.
#3 – Don’t be afraid to fail. That’s when you learn the most!
Would it surprise you to learn that most successful people fail many more times than they succeed? It’s true!
Thomas Edison failed 1,000 times before inventing the light blub, but he never gave up and was adept at starting over.
The people who never fail never take chances or follow their dreams. Even if they’re completely miserable, they stick it out because they feel they’ve come too far to start over or they’re just comfortable with the status quo.
Failing is a natural part of life. Embrace it. Learn from it and move on.
Starting over may seem scary because it involves making a drastic change in your life. The interesting part of the equation is looking at what happens if you don’t start over and make changes.
Can you live the rest of your life being dejected and unhappy? Depending on your perspective, life is too short or too long to be miserable, even for a moment. Starting over gives you a chance to wipe the slate clean and begin again.
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If things aren’t going well and you’re miserable, the worst thing you could do is nothing.