Frustrated? 7 Ways to Kick It to the Curb & Feel Better
You know that frustrated feeling.
Your alarm clock didn’t go off, had a fight with your significant other, spilled coffee on your new shirt, and you’re late to work because no one knows how to drive. You just want to scream!
And that’s only the half of it, right?
First, I want to share a little secret with you. You’re not alone. We all get that way sometimes and I’m here to tell you, it’s okay. Feeling frustrated is a bad feeling, but it’s still a feeling you should try to face head on or else it’ll fester inside you and make you feel worse, at least that’s been my experience.
Frustration is born out of helplessness and lack of control
While feeling frustrated doesn’t feel very good, probably because of the helplessness and lack of control that goes along with it, try your best to funnel your frustrated energies into something positive, constructive, and practical you do have power over.
If I make this sound simple, that’s not my intention. Breaking out of your frustrated funk is anything but easy although with some practice, you can make your frustration work for you instead of against you.
Typically when you’re feeling frustrated, you put all your energy into banging your head against the wall. Not literally of course, but, if you’re anything like me, you’ll keep thinking about it, internalize it, and keep dwelling on it until you’re beyond exhausted. I don’t know about you, but that seems like a waste to me.
Take your frustration and channel it into something positive
Instead of doing what you normally do when you’re frustrated, here’s what I do when I’m feeling frustrated and want to make myself and the situation better.
#1 – Talk About It
Call up a friend and talk about what’s frustrating you. Better yet – meet up with your friend for lunch or a light dinner and talk in person. Sometimes just venting a little and sharing your struggles can make you feel a whole lot better and give you some perspective.
Just make sure you’re also open to listening to your friend when she’s struggling with something.
#2 – Write About It
Whatever you want to call it – writing, journaling, keeping a diary – just get your feelings out and onto paper so they stop bugging you.
Don’t edit or censor yourself either. Just write your thoughts and frustrations down as quickly as possible.
#3 – Remember to Breathe
Being frustrated sometimes comes with being emotional. Before you get caught up in the drama of the moment, breathe by inhaling deeply, counting to 3, and then exhaling slowly. If you’re still feeling off, do it again until you feel a little more relaxed.
#4 – Go Take A Nap
If you’re so frustrated that you can’t even put 2 thoughts together or form a sentence, your frustration is zapping you of all your energy. My recommendation is go take a nap.
However, if you’re at work and a nap isn’t possible, go to the bathroom or walk out to your car and be alone until you compose yourself. Sometimes you just need a break!
#5 – Compartmentalize It
Frustration has a way of seeping into every facet of your life if you let it. Stop feeling frustrated by compartmentalizing it.
For example, if you’re frustrated by something at work. On the way home, mentally shut the door on all things work. Then, open the door to something enjoyable you’re going to do when you get home, such as eat something yummy for dinner, watch your favorite TV show, or spend time with your special someone.
It’s a way of deliberately and temporarily forgetting something that displeases you. This way you put the frustrated, negative feelings aside so they don’t interfere with or dominate your life. As a result, you’re free to enjoy what’s to come.
#6 – Don’t Play the Blame Game
When things go wrong, we sometimes want to blame ourselves or somebody else. I totally get that and I understand. I’ll admit that I’ve even done it.
What I can tell you is that most times finding a scapegoat doesn’t make the situation better. And, in some cases, it can make the situation worse.
If you’ve made a mistake, definitely take responsibility for it because that’s the proper thing to do, but move on. Placing blame doesn’t solve any problems. It only prolongs that frustrated feeling and continues to make everyone involved – including you – feel bad.
#7 – Do Something You Have Control Over
One of the best ways to get over that frustrated feeling is to do something you have control over. As I mentioned at the beginning of this post, feeling frustrated comes from a lack of control.
What better way to move forward then to take a brisk walk outside (hello fresh air and exercise!), go to bed early (say yes to better focus!), or eat some baby carrots to prevent your sugary food cravings. As you can see, there’s a lot you do have control over!
In closing, by doing some of the exercises above, you’re centering yourself so you can leave the drama behind and think clearly. This is a good thing because not only will it help you face whatever you’re struggling with (if you choose to deal with it), but also you’ll be better prepared to find a solution (if there is one) and, more important, move past it.
So, how are you going to channel those frustrated feelings when they happen? I’d really like to know. Tell me in the comments below.
What exactly is frustrating you? Maybe my books about how to deal with difficult people and tough situations will inspire you?