You’re Fat! 7 Scary Effects of Fat Shaming Your Daughter
This week’s post is a letter to all parents who have little girls. Don’t call your daughters fat. Don’t even think about it.
When I contemplate my childhood, the thing that stands out the most for me is my father criticizing my weight.
He didn’t just call me fat. I’ll give him credit. He was more creative than that. He called me names like “thunder thighs” and told me boys don’t date girls who are heavy. Not only that, but also he made me mow the lawn in the dead of summer in sweats so I would get exercise.
Equating exercise with mowing the lawn was a bad move. Building that connection between exercise and mowing the lawn only served to make me hate exercise even more than I already did. Have you ever mowed a lawn in the summer in sweatpants? It gets hot.
Dealing With My Weight Was a Nightmare
For a little girl blossoming into a young lady, dealing with my weight was a nightmare. And my father never truly understood the impact of his words and actions.
To be honest, I was so young I couldn’t even articulate how his criticisms made me feel. I just knew it wasn’t good. Plus this was the time before the concept of fat shaming was introduced into society.
Just so you know, I’m not going to whine through this entire article, but instead give concrete examples of why telling your daughter she’s fat – even if you think you’re being constructive or helpful – is not the right way to go.
I’m also going to end the article with a more positive way to get your daughter to lose weight without directly or indirectly fat shaming her.
What Happens When You Call Your Daughter Fat
With that said, here are 7 scary things that may happen to your daughter when you tell her she’s fat.
Self-Love: Saving Your Sanity From Your Dysfunctional Family This Holiday Season
Ho Ho Ho or No No No?
Not looking forward to getting together with your family this holiday season? I totally get it.
If hearing the same old Christmas songs droning on, racking up debt buying presents your in-laws probably won’t like, and being held hostage at the dinner table doesn’t tickle your fancy, you might need to make a change in how you handle the holidays with your family.
While I wouldn’t advise getting all liquored up on mimosas or starting an all out brawl, there are mindful ways to take care of yourself. It’s called self-love.
Being Grateful: 10 Things to Be Thankful For When You’re Dealing With A Toxic Family Member
It’s that time of year again. Thanksgiving and the other holidays are here.
With that said, here are the top 10 things to be thankful for when you’re in the midst of dealing with a toxic family member during the holidays.
And they just might apply to you too.
Top 10 Things to Be Thankful For
How Toxic People Negatively Affect Your Body Image And Self-Esteem (And What You Can Do About It!)
It seems like our body image is assaulted on a daily basis, don’t you think?
3 Festering Reasons You’re Still Dating A Jerk
Psst. It might be because of your toxic parents.
I was reading this article on mindbodygreen about why we date the wrong people and it got me thinking about my dating history. I’m married now, but I won’t lie – it was a bitch to get here.
[If you’re a little unclear on what I mean when I say the word jerk. Here’s how dictionary.com defines jerk. (Pay attention to definition #4.) Also, here’s what urbandictionary.com has to say about the word jerk.]
Okay. Okay. Let’s get on with it already.
5 Beautiful Reasons How Makeup Helps You Cope with Toxic Parents
Sometimes the arguments, the name-calling, and the emotional abuse get too much to bear. If you’re keeping all that hurt inside, don’t. You wouldn’t believe what kept me going.
My saving grace was makeup.
Makeup was my hobby, my outlet, and my addiction. It can be torture if you don’t have a diversion to express yourself. Makeup was my salvation. In a world of anger, sadness, and depression, makeup was my savior.
It’s crazy, right? Let me explain…
3 Surprising Back-to-School Essentials You Can’t Buy in a Store
If You Grew Up With Toxic Parents, You’re Probably Missing These Basics
You’ve picked up the new laptop, printer, three-ring binder, and anything else you think you needed in order to start a new year. So why do you still feel bad?
Maybe it’s just butterflies or nerves. Whatever it is, you just can’t shake it. It’s an uncomfortable feeling.
It might be that you’re actually missing the MOST important back-to-school supplies. Contrary to what TV tells us, these school supplies can’t be found in-stores or bought online.
4 Ways to Win an Argument with a Difficult Person in 5 Minutes
Another fight with your mother or father? Yeah. I’ve been there too and it’s not a good feeling. If you still live with your parents, or if you just see them occasionally, here are 4 tips to get you out of an argument quickly before they drive you to the funny farm.
Writing My First Book
3 Reasons I Wrote A Self-Help Book
Are you wondering why at the age of forty-something I decided to publish my first book?
Well, let me explain. I was bullied since as far back as I can remember.
Dealing with these toxic people and their venomous comments on a daily basis bred my propensity for low self-esteem and bad body image. And, it cost me years – decades – of unhappiness. Life was difficult enough without their taunts. It was a struggle just to get through the day.