Writing My First Book
3 Reasons I Wrote A Self-Help Book
Are you wondering why at the age of forty-something I decided to publish my first book?
Well, let me explain. I was bullied since as far back as I can remember.
Dealing with these toxic people and their venomous comments on a daily basis bred my propensity for low self-esteem and bad body image. And, it cost me years – decades – of unhappiness. Life was difficult enough without their taunts. It was a struggle just to get through the day.
With this battle raging, my perspective was warped. I couldn’t see that the unhealthy habits I developed, such as dating the wrong people and binge eating until I got sick, were only facilitating my melancholy. And for years I thought I was alone.
It wasn’t until I gained the strength to be my own person and take back control of my life that I realized I had never been alone. There were and are people currently dealing with the same self-loathing that I was living with for years, but I couldn’t see because I had tunnel vision. If I had only been able to open my eyes, I may have found others empathetic to my situation and may have begun the healing process years earlier.
With that in mind, here are three reasons I wrote my first book:
#1 – Life is Difficult
Even when you’re feeling good, family, friends, work, and other stuff that happens in life is challenging. If you’re not in the right mindset, those normally demanding things turn into insurmountable mountains. You need to have at least an adequate supply of confidence and self-esteem in order to be happy and make the most of your life.
My hope is that my books and books to come will help people live better lives by giving them practical ways of reclaiming that confidence and self-esteem that may have gotten lost or, worse yet, taken.
#2 – Toxic People are Everywhere
Yes, there are a lot of good people out there, probably many more than toxic. The question is about perspective. If all you have is a toxic person clouding your vision or blocking your path, it may be difficult to see those good people. If you’re not feeling your best and you don’t even appreciate yourself, how can you possibly appreciate someone else?
My book details strategies that have helped me push the toxic people in my life aside so I could start to see the good in myself, and in other people. If you can get rid of the negativity, the toxic people in your life won’t have as much power over you.
#3 – You’re Not Alone
When you’re down in the dumps, you think you’re the only one. No one could possibly understand what I was dealing with or how I felt. You might feel that way too. And yes, while my situation may not be identical to yours, there’s probably a common thread. Embrace it and know that you’re not alone.
If you have low self-esteem or lack confidence, there’s a reason for it. Everyone has imperfections and it’s those same imperfections that make us unique, amazing people.
So there’s a little insight into the reasons why I wrote my first book. Over the years, I’ve built up my confidence and self-esteem despite all the unexpected hiccups of life so that I could find happiness. It’ll always be a work in progress, but I’m in a much better place now. With the help of the tools and tactics in my book, I hope you’ll get there too.
What have you learned over the years? Are you thinking about writing a book? Let me know by leaving a comment below!
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