Self Esteem

Depressed? 5 Ways To Combat Negative Self-Image on Facebook

| Gayle Katz

Depressed? 5 Ways To Combat Negative Self-Image on Facebook

Depressed Girl

Depressed? No way. With all the funny cat videos and laugh out loud crazy memes, how could you be blue?

If you find yourself scrolling through your timeline and see your friends, colleagues, and family constantly post about how they’re so psyched to go on their vacations, dine at fancy restaurants, and have delightful holidays with their family, you might feel a little bad.

While all of those things are great, what if you don’t have your family close? Or if you can’t afford a fancy dinner or can’t take the vacation time?

 

Is Social Media Making You Miserable?

If you’re secretly jealous of others who appear to have it better than you, resent people who were dealt a better lot in life, or depressed because you’re not where you thought you would be at this point in your life, I hear you. Loud and clear.

If you feel that way, it’s totally understandable. Now, more than ever, people are sharing every moment of every day of every experience they have on social media. Some people do it to keep in touch with friends and family, others do it out of habit, and others do it just to prop themselves up.

If you’re feeling sad and depressed because other people seem to be in a state of perpetual happiness on social media, keep reading.

Here are 5 suggestions to combat your social media depression and preserve your self-image.

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Self-Love: Saving Your Sanity From Your Dysfunctional Family This Holiday Season

| Gayle Katz

Self-Love: Saving Your Sanity From Your Dysfunctional Family This Holiday Season

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Ho Ho Ho or No No No?

Not looking forward to getting together with your family this holiday season? I totally get it.

If hearing the same old Christmas songs droning on, racking up debt buying presents your in-laws probably won’t like, and being held hostage at the dinner table doesn’t tickle your fancy, you might need to make a change in how you handle the holidays with your family.

While I wouldn’t advise getting all liquored up on mimosas or starting an all out brawl, there are mindful ways to take care of yourself. It’s called self-love.

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How Failure Is Your Path To Success

| Gayle Katz

Embrace Failure – It’s Your Path To Success

Fearful girl

Come a little closer. I want to share something personal.

Are you worried about failing? I was.

Do you try to avoid failing at all costs? I used to.

Is failure a dirty word? I thought so too.

With all these preconceived ideas floating around in my head, I decided to investigate what the word failure really means before giving it the power to ruin my self-confidence.

For fun I’ve also peppered in a few quotes you might find inspirational.

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Healthy Relationships – What NOT To Do If You Want One

| Gayle Katz

Healthy Relationships – What NOT To Do If You Want One

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Maybe you met your special someone at work. Or maybe you met on one of the many dating websites like eHarmony or Match.com. Maybe a friend set you up on a blind date.

However you met the person you’re currently in a relationship with, you want to do everything in your power to make it a healthy one, right? I’m going to assume that you’re really into this person and want to make a go of it.

If you’re perplexed about how to rev up your relationship so it has the best chance of succeeding, listen up because I’m going to share my secrets on what has NOT worked.

If you know you do one of the no-no’s below or catch yourself doing them, cut it out.

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Food Coma? 5 Healthy Ways to Recover From Your Thanksgiving Feast

| Gayle Katz

Food Coma? 5 Healthy Ways to Recover From Your Thanksgiving Feast

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Did you overeat during the Thanksgiving holiday weekend? Fall asleep on the couch? Yeah. Me too. It’s called a food coma.

Between the juicy turkey, sugary sweet potatoes with marshmallows, starchy stuffing, and decadent desserts, I definitely ate more than my fair share of calories. I didn’t even mention the regular buttered mashed potatoes, tangy cranberry sauce, creamy green bean casserole, and tasty wine!

If you felt uncomfortable, bloated, and depressed because your relatives almost had to roll you to your car or you found yourself unzipping your pants just to breathe normally after your Thanksgiving feast, listen up. You’re not alone.

As I mentioned before, I am not a doctor, nutritionist, or psychiatrist. However, I am a regular person – just like you – trying to make good choices in my life.

Despite the Thanksgiving food coma, here are 5 pretty simple ways to recover from your gluttonous Thanksgiving rampage.

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Being Grateful: 10 Things to Be Thankful For When You’re Dealing With A Toxic Family Member

| Gayle Katz

Being Grateful: 10 Things to Be Thankful For When You’re Dealing With A Toxic Family Member

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It’s that time of year again. Thanksgiving and the other holidays are here.

With that said, here are the top 10 things to be thankful for when you’re in the midst of dealing with a toxic family member during the holidays.

And they just might apply to you too.

Top 10 Things to Be Thankful For

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Toxic Body Image: 7 Non-Toxic Ways To Stop Hating Your Body and Start Loving Yourself Again

| Gayle Katz

Toxic Body Image: 7 Non-Toxic Ways To Stop Hating Your Body and Start Loving Yourself Again

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Does this skirt make me look fat?

I’m a pizza face.

Why did I do that? I’m so stupid.

Yeah. I’ve said those things about myself too. And it’s not pretty. Why do we feel compelled to say such nasty things about ourselves? It only reinforces our toxic body image. If someone else were saying those things to himself or herself, what would we say? That’s right. We’d say, “Cut it out!”

So why do we still insist on saying these toxic things to ourselves? I’m not a psychologist, but I feel like this self-deprecation is a habit. A habit we’ve learned based on how the toxic people in our lives treat us. And I call it a habit because, even long after we kick the toxic people to the curb, we’re still saying hurtful and demeaning things to ourselves that only continue to reinforce our toxic body image.

How do we fix this self-deprecation habit that is slowly – and not so silently – stealing our energy, confidence, and self-esteem?

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Listening: What We Learned From Our Date With The Chick-fil-A Cow

| Gayle Katz

Listening: What We Learned From Our Date With The Chick-fil-A Cow

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Ever since I got married my husband and I started a tradition of going food shopping on weeknights instead of leaving it for the weekend.

For starters, we don’t like going food shopping in the first place and, more importantly, it’s less crowded on weeknights than on the weekend.

On these nights it’s often difficult to cook dinner at home because time is of the essence. With that in mind, we started going out for dinner prior to our food shopping adventures.

Some nights we go out for Chinese food, other nights it’s Mediterranean, and sometimes we go to Chick-fil-A.

Last Monday night we happened to stop there and – to our surprise – we saw the Chick-fil-A cow. Even though I’m fortysomething, I still get excited when funny things like this happen.

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Name Calling: How Toxic People Use It As An Emotional Weapon (And What You Can Do About It!)

| Gayle Katz

Name Calling: How Toxic People Use It As An Emotional Weapon (And What You Can Do About It!)

Name Calling: How Toxic People Use It As An Emotional Weapon (And What You Can Do About It!)

Name calling is a disease that infects us all. All you have to do is turn on the television or get online to see it in action.

Let’s face it. There are no lack of words and phrases to call out the fact we’re not perfect.

Over the past few months, I can recall at least 10 to 20 different insults, just off the top of my head, that talk about women in a negative light, such as crazy b*tch, butter face, fattie, and others.

While women bear the biggest brunt of the insult game, men have been called their fair share too, such as sissy, pervert, douchebag, and more.

I know there are a lot of other raunchier names I could have listed, but I’d like to keep it clean, or as clean as I can keep it having already mentioned a few insults that make me want to vomit. Okay, let’s keep this article moving…

For decades it bothered me when people called me names. I didn’t understand WHY people felt the need to fling insults. And, for a time, I was using them too, mostly out of being called them myself as well as sheer frustration and anger. It wasn’t until recently that I learned all this name calling had nothing really to do with me after all.

Here are the 4 reasons I discovered why people call other people nasty names:

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Low Self-Esteem: 5 Bad Habits That Sabotage Your Success

| Gayle Katz

Low Self-Esteem: 5 Bad Habits That Sabotage Your Success

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Going to work can be a chore, but we do it anyway. We do it for money, personal and professional growth, power, camaraderie, and more.

For those people with low self-esteem, we become akin to mice at work. We do a lot, but stay under the radar for one reason or another. Instead of touting our greatness, we’re okay being marginalized.

How does this happen? Mainly because your boss and coworkers start to take you for granted. They don’t fully acknowledge your contributions and neither do you.

Do you do these five things at work?

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